2pm
"Terribly hungover on the beach, but feeling good after reading a great part of The Art of Happiness about evolution and change in romantic relationships. Expecting the same level of passion and excitement to remain constant in a relationship over the years is not always realistic. Change and evolution happen in relationships, and one shouldn't view it negatively. I really needed to read that. Nick and I have been together for over 3 years now, and our honeymoon phase is definitely over, but we have evolved into a beautiful domestic partnership. We are still in love, even though the passion has evolved and changed. I am excited to share this book with Nick when I go home."
This was a very important realization for me- knowing that just because Nick and I have evolved, doesn't mean we've fallen out of love. When I realized this, I began to miss him terribly. When I returned home, I couldn't get enough of him. Not only had my trip rejuvenated me , but rejuvenated my relationship.
6:45 pm
"Crippling anxiety as I hide in my hotel room with the curtains drawn.
I'm trying to work through it, but I'm still feeling weak and hungover, which isn't helping.
I had to psych myself up to get dressed for dinner, and when I walked into the restaurant they were not open yet, and I was asked to come back in 10 minutes. I crumbled. Of course, the over-zealous fat girl would be the first to arrive! Was that running through their minds? Why am I letting something so small and pointless get to me? The idea of facing that same waiter again is turning my stomach!
I'm sitting here in my room thinking, you know, you don't REALLY need supper...but that is an unhealthy thought process. I skipped breakfast and lunch, and I really do need to eat. I'm trying to be calm and kind to myself right now , and walk out that door, and have a pleasant meal.
I'm feeling hyper-visible today, a loner, a weirdo. I cannot believe I have not made friends. Everyone I've tried to talk to has blown me off- which is odd for me, since I'm such a social person, and make friends easily at home. Everyone here is so normal, maybe I weird them out? Where are the damn alternative people?
I'm imagining walking into the restaurant, all eyes on me, as usual, but WHAT'S THE BIG DEAL?! I'm alone, I'm weird, I'm fat, I'm tattooed, (I look damn fantastic in this dress though)...THE ONE MAKING THE BIGGEST DEAL ABOUT THIS SITUATION- IS ME!
Get over it. Put your shoes back on. Go have some squash and fish and wine, and ENJOY IT!"
This was by far my worst anxiety attack of the week. I wasn't sure if I wanted to share the above journal entry, but I feel it is important to show thought processes of someone gripped by anxiety. This is the reality. I am very aware , even at the time I am panicking, that it is ridiculous and pointless, but it doesn't stop the panic. I have to work through it. I haven't always been able to work through it, and I know many others who have a hard time working through it, and who will let their anxiety and panic keep them behind closed doors. It seems like a small, insignificant moment of my trip to blog about, but I wanted to be totally honest and open, and share all aspects of my learning and growth.
7:45 pm
"Now I'm proud to say I'm eating and keeping myself calm. I put my glasses on as if to hide behind them. Less attention. Or maybe it's just perceived as less I don't know. I'm really starting to see this trip as a social experiment. I'm learning quite a bit about others and especially myself."
April 3rd was a largely un-eventful day in terms of a vacation, but, was very important in terms of healing and recovering. This entry has been difficult to share as it is so very personal, and a very different "me" that I usually share on my blog. Every person has weak moments, and every person has their hurdles.
April 4th will be rather quiet, as well, a sort of calm-before-the-storm that is the beauty and intensity of the rest of my trip. I am eager to share it with you all!
xo
Lenora
2 comments:
You are brave as fuck and I love you.
You have me on the edge of my seat, I can't wait to read more.
Thank you so much for sharing!
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